Auckland Council subsidizes conference on queer polyamory

Poly PrideAuckland Council has chosen to subsidize a one-day conference exploring queer polyamory relationships.

The conference is entitled “Poly Panel, Discussions around Queer Polyamory” and is described on GayNZ as “a one day event exploring a framework of ethical, healthy polyamory relationships.”

Further advertising for the event explains that “along with questioning heteronormativity, many LGBTI people question monogamous marriages and relationships.”  The event aims to “break down some of the isolation and misunderstanding that sometimes surrounds non-monogamous (and polyamorous) relationships.”

Councillor Cathy Casey, Chair of Auckland Council’s Community Development and Safety Committee stated in a media release earlier this year that the committee wanted “to support a framework” which would “help turn Auckland into the world’s most liveable city for our rainbow communities.”

That media release pointed out that ‘Rainbow communities’ “is a term that covers the diversity of sexual orientations and gender/sex identities.”

Other groups also received funding from the Auckland Council through what GayNZ refers to as the Rainbow Door Fund.  Some of these groups included:

  • Gender Diversity Info and Advocacy Pack;
  • Tamaki Makaurau Lesbian Newsletter Outreach Project;
  • Silent Gays – a service for those LGBT people “hidden and suffering in the church and religious systems”;
  • Trans Support Group for trans women 35 plus;
  • Intersex Workshop.

This is not the first time the Auckland Council has subsidised gay events and projects.  They were partners for the Auckland Pride Festival which ran through February this year.  Part of the festival was the annual Big Gay Out, for which the Council were silver sponsors.

A 2012 report on GLBTI communities in Auckland also shows that the Auckland Council gave over $21,000 to Rainbow Youth and $20,000 to Outline NZ.

Why is the Council so intent on pushing social agendas in our city?  My husband and I pay our rates for services and infrastructure, we don’t expect them to go towards social engineering experiments.  My parents don’t even have a footpath running from their house to their local shops, yet the Council can find money to fund organisations that promote fringe behaviours such as polyamory.  It’s time the Auckland Council focused on it’s real job and serve the majority of their residents.


The Third Way: living an authentic life of truth and love


It has been interesting to read and view the comments made in the secular media earlier this week about the new film “The Third Way”, and Bishop Dunn’s desire for it to be used as a teaching tool in the Auckland Diocese.

It was exciting to hear that Bishop Dunn found The Third Way thought-provoking, as this is such an important issue.

If you’re a little lost The Third Way is a 38 minute film which discusses homosexuality from the perspective of Catholic men and women who have struggled with same sex attraction. Ultimately they have found hope, love and acceptance as they have embraced the Church’s teaching that all people are called to chastity.

Personal stories are punctuated with commentary on the call to chastity for all from well-known Catholic speakers such as Jason Evert, Chris Stefanik and Christopher West.  In these sound bites, it is clear that the Church’s teaching on chastity is for all – whether, heterosexual or homosexual, married or single.

The film challenges the wider Catholic community to treat people who experience same sex attraction with compassion, dignity and respect.

Melinda, who features in the film, notes that “for people who have chosen to live chastity one of the biggest obstacles is isolation and loneliness.”  She explains that “the Church has to function as family and as community, and it has to do so in a way that is more powerful and more real than the family and community that people find in the gay scene.  At the moment we’re not anywhere near that.”

Still, gay advocates came away not happy and wanting more from the Church.

Trevor Easton, who is the manager of OUTLine NZ (a GLBT telphone helpline) and was very vocal about the film, saw it “as making people feel uncomfortable, unloved, not able to be themselves.”

Critical of the people featured in the film, Easton maintained that it “is portraying gay and lesbian people in a very negative, isolated way.”

These are real people in the film.  It is their stories.  Their lives.  And Easton and the other critics brush them aside as if they do not matter because they are not towing the accepted gay party line.

They are heroic, not only for speaking out, but for living an authentic life of truth and love.   Their stories have power to change lives.

It seems very clear that gay advocates will not settle for anything less than the Church changing her doctrines to justify the choices they make.

Just as some of those who are divorced and remarried want the Church to change her doctrines to justify the choices they have made.

Just like those married couples who use artificial methods of birth control to prevent the birth of a child, or IVF to make a child want to justify the choices they make.

But the truth can never change to suit social mores.  The truth is constant, never changing.  We might find new ways to present that truth, but the truth itself never changes.  It is we who must change so that our lives more fully reflect the truth.





A Pro-life view of ‘Tolerance’

“Tolerance is the virtue of a man without convictions.” G. K. Chesterton (1874-1936)

Something about ‘tolerance’ has always made me uncomfortable. I’ve long been aware that the loudest preachers of tolerance are the ones who are the most intolerant of my own beliefs. I’m well aware of that, and the contradiction of it, but somehow it never really was the reason.

And those who preach tolerance are full of conviction. It’s their followers who they expect to abandon their convictions, or conform to what is politically correct. We all know plenty of them. I’ve also been aware of this for a long time, but it was never the whole source of what was bothering me about ‘tolerance’.

There was always something else that I could never put my finger on.

Then I was blessed enough to hear Fr Jim Brand from Vatican radio talking about ‘tolerance’, and my eyes were opened. “What might we tolerate?” he asked, “A fly buzzing around…”

Essentially he was reminding us all that when we only ‘tolerate’ something bad or irritating. When we declare our tolerance of a person, it’s actually a put down. And that’s a problem for a Christian. The worth of each and every person comes from them being made in the image and likeness of God. Whether it’s a ‘reproductive rights’ protestor, an expectant mum at a pregnancy centre, or her preborn child. Another human being is never a ‘thing’ to be ‘tolerated’, but a chance for us to practice our Christian vocation of love.

So tolerance is far below the standard required of a Christian. If an expectant Mum came into our centre, and I merely tolerated her because of her beliefs about abortion, then I have failed her, myself and our Lord.

Her, because she will pick up the difference between a ‘tolerant’ attitude and a true Christian attitude of unconditional love. It’s the reason that faith based crisis pregnancy centres have been so effective. I’ve failed myself because I’ve failed to live up to my Christian vocation, and it doing so, I’ve failed our Lord too.

But there is the call to be intolerant. Yes, Christians are called to be intolerant. Our Lord himself showed a great deal of intolerance towards the practice of ‘money changing’ in the temple.

While we are not to be intolerant of people, there is plenty we are called to be intolerant too: Abortion, contraception, poverty, human trafficking, violence and anything that robs people of their God given dignity.

It’s our mission and vocation to bring the Gospel of Life, a world where everyone experiences God given grace and dignity, from conception to natural death. And it’s our job to be intolerant to a culture of death that robs people of their God given dignity, and then so often, their lives too.

And in this, may we never be that man without a conviction!

“All men are equal as all pennies are equal, because the only value in any of them is that they bear the image of the King.” G. K. Chesterton (1874-1936)

Big Gay Out: Politicians, children and human dignity?

Big Gay OutAccording to news reports, politicians flocked to the Big Gay Out yesterday, taking the opportunity to remind festival goers that they had voted to redefine marriage last year.

The Prime Minister, John Key, attending for the 8th time, happily posed for photos with drag queens and scantily dressed topless men, while declaring the event a “celebration of diversity in New Zealand.”

Taking credit for helping the marriage legislation to go through, Key told the press, “If I hadn’t voted for gay marriage, it’s less likely that it would have passed.”

Joining him from his National Party were Nikki Kay, MP for Auckland Central and Maurice Williamson, who will go down in history for his arrogant rant at all those who opposed redefining marriage.

Key’s rival from Labour, David Cunliffe, also attended, as did the Greens, and Auckland Mayor Len Brown; each keen to be seen not only as supporting, but celebrating the gay lifestyle.

The Big Gay Out is targeted not only at adults, but as a “family day”.  Face painters and performers were available to help entertain the children and families were encouraged to bring a picnic.  Comments on a Stuff video of the event described how great it was to see so many families and children.

One wonders how parents could possibly think that exposing their children to a constant display of sexually themed dress-ups, music and displays is responsible.

Yet parents will expose their children to even more sexually explicit viewing, when they visit the Auckland Pride Parade on 22 February.  This parade usually features topless women, people wearing only body art and in times past floats with a masochist leaning.

The Big Gay Out and the Auckland Pride Parade are part of the two week long Auckland Pride Festival which features a whole host of events.  The festival is partnered by Auckland Tourism, Events and Economic Development (an organisation of the Auckland Council); Unitec; the Embassy of the United States of America; Love Your Condom; the radio station ZM; as well as GayNZ and Peaches and Cream adult shops.  The Big Gay Out is sponsored by the AIDS Foundation and Durex.

Each year the gay agenda in New Zealand is becoming more and more widely accepted.  Children are growing up exposed to lifestyles that only a few short decades ago would never have been dreamed of.  The understanding of family pertaining to mum, dad and the kids is now long gone, and events such as the Big Gay Out further work towards destroying the natural family, replacing it with an “anything goes” approach as long as everyone is ‘loved’ and happy.

It is difficult to see how the dignity of the human person can be upheld at events such as these.  How many people are laughed at rather than with?  How many people are hiding behind their costumes, harboring a deep hurt that even they do not recognize?

What kind of example are politicians, parents and organisations giving children when they endorse these behaviours?

New Zealander’s must remember which politicians flocked to the Big Gay Out.  This coming election is a serious one.  Clear lines no longer exist between left and right, between moral and immoral.  Our vote must be considered very carefully.  It will be a vote for death or for life.

A list of how MPs vote on the Marriage (Definition of Marriage) Amendment Bill, which redefined marriage in New Zealand can be found on the Family Life International NZ website.

New Zealand becomes 13th country to legalize gay ‘marriage’

New Zealand has become the 13th country in the world to legalize same-sex marriage. The Marriage (Definition of Marriage) Amendment Bill was passed in Parliament Wednesday night 77 votes to 44.

Reaction from the supporters of the legislation has been jubilant. Louisa Wall, who submitted the Private Member’s Bill, said, “This third reading is our road towards healing and including all citizens in our state institution of marriage regardless of their sex, sexual orientation or gender identity.”

However, while supporters of the legislation are celebrating, many New Zealanders are concerned at how fast it has moved through the parliamentary process, and the effects it will have on the country.

“In passing the ‘shot-gun’ same-sex marriage bill, Parliament has chosen to reject the obvious cultural and natural character of marriage and the subsequent creation and care of children, and made marriage just about partnership,” said Bob McCroskie, National Director of Family First.

“In ramming through this bill in a shameful way without due consideration, and with no clear public mandate, politicians have committed an arrogant act of cultural vandalism.”

The bill, which had its first reading in August 2012, only a month after it was introduced, redefines marriage to include same-sex and transgender couples. The law also allows same-sex couples to adopt children, a consequence of the legislation that has not been widely understood within New Zealand.

There are concerns that the rights of children have been overlooked. “With the accompanying consequence of changes to adoption laws, politicians have also weakened the rights of the child in favour of pandering to the demands of adults,” said McCroskie. “A child has a right to a mum and a dad. We should not set out in public policy to deny a child that basic right. This is not a sexuality issue. This is a gender issue. The gender of the parents does matter to a child.”

It has been stated throughout the debate that legalizing same-sex marriage will not affect others, however Dame Colleen Bayer, National Director of Family Life International NZ, argued that same-sex marriage does affect those who oppose it. “Supporters of same-sex ‘marriage’ tell those of us who oppose the legislation that it will not affect us, that it is about love, equality and human rights. But this legislation does affect those who are not in support of same-sex marriage. We are not allowed to speak our minds. We are called ‘haters’, ‘bigots’. What will come next?”

Archbishop John Dew, President of the NZ Catholic Bishops Conference, reportedly reacted to the passage of the legislation, saying: “We find it bizarre that what has been discarded is an understanding of marriage that has its origin in human nature and common to every culture, and that almost all references to husband and wife will be removed from legislation referencing marriage. We know many New Zealanders stand with us in this.”

Civil Unions have been legal in New Zealand since April 2005.

The changes to the Marriage Act will take effect in August 2013.

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Not all homosexuals want to marry or adopt

the family one mama and one papaLast weekend’s march against same-sex marriage in France attracted up to 1 million people and was attended by a large number of homosexuals who say that the vocal homosexual lobby is not representing all people who have a same-sex attraction.

LifeSiteNews reported that a new group, “Homovox“, is opposed to the proposed French legislation to legalise homosexual marriage, and that most homosexuals do not want to marry or adopt children.  They went on to say that:

“French lesbian Nathalie de Williencourt says she decided to create the group as a result of her frustration over a vocal homosexual lobby that has been unquestioningly accepted as the mouthpiece of all of the country’s homosexuals… “They don’t feel represented by activists that they haven’t chosen, who steal the stage from a silent majority,” she told the French magazine Christian Family. “Many feel belittled, mistreated by this array of demands that stigmatize them.”

It would be wise for governments all across the world, who are contemplating legalising same-sex marriage, or who have already done so, to be certain that they are not listening to the vocal minority.  Leaders of countries must listen to the many voices (and the evidence they present) – both heterosexual and homosexual, who oppose legalising same-sex marriage and adoption.  When they do so, they may just find that it would be imprudent to pass legislation that allows these unions, and the subsequent adoption of children.

Welcome to Sodom!

I just had to share this letter from Msgr. Edward J. Filardi which appeared in a Parish Bulletin in Maryland, US.  This State has just legalised same-sex marriage.  The letter speaks for itself.

Pastor’s Letter

Welcome to Sodom. Yes, that is what Maryland has now become. Sodom with its neighbor Gomorrah was a city of antiquity whose disregard for the natural law of human love led to its destruction. That same disregard is now written into state law. The distinctive physical and life-cultivating complimentarity of woman and man has been dismissed as a basis for marriage. Additionally, those who cannot honor this diluted definition in their personal and business activities will be held legally liable for discrimination and punished accordingly.

Already, the owner of a trolley service in Annapolis seeing this coming announced he will no longer offer wedding services. By doing so he will lose much of his business, but he cannot in good faith go along with treating as normal what is not, neither can we.

It is a great sadness that many of Satan’s helpers in ushering in this demonic distortion of marriage were Catholics, such as our governor. In promoting this desecration they have not only brought dishonor to our holy faith and shame to all Catholics, but invite the real possibility of damnation on themselves. We must pray that they recognize this error, repent and make reparation.

Some may interpret my words as an unfair disregard for individuals who bear same-gender attraction. It is not. Such brothers and sister must be loved and embraced. Indeed, we must make greater efforts of proper inclusion and support. At the same time true love is not allowance for any activity. It has no authority to overlook what is written in nature. Love cannot comply with a lie. It first honors what God has designed, and then encourages all to live in authentic love that leads to true fulfillment.

Nothing changes for us, because God defines marriage. This has not changed. The purposeful union of man and woman was the crown of God’s creation. Anything else by that name mocks what God has created, and therefore mocks God.

Maryland is our home. It is where we are placed, and it is where we will continue to live. But especially now we must live upholding in word and honor the truth of marriage with clarity. We cannot betray what God has created without betraying God. This means never placating or playing along with a false notion, no matter how “well intentioned” some may be. It will not be easy. We do so at the risk of the ire and even legal sanctions this will invoke.
Our beloved state is now a modern-day Sodom. We should not be surprised at the coming of confusion, conflict, and even catastrophe. We reap what we sow.

May God have mercy on us.
Msgr. Edward J. Filardi