Family Planning’s obsession with sex

Family Planning New Zealand is an organisation obsessed with sex.  And they are especially obsessed with young people exercising their so-called ‘right’ to participate in sex.

Consequences of sexual activity outside of a monogamous committed relationship (that would be marriage) are a nasty by-product of experiencing fleeting ‘pleasure’ in Family Planning’s view.

Concern for the nation’s youth sees Family Planning hold clinics in a total of 56 locations.  23 of those are school-based services, and visits for under 22’s are free.  Regrettably, they have managed to wheedle their way into Catholic schools, influencing teachers and students alike with their propaganda which contradicts the church’s strong (and beautiful) moral teaching on human sexuality.

Providing sexual health services and “education” is a nice little earner for this organisation that has been working hard to desensitise and normalise all manner of sexual behaviours since its inception in 1936 as the Sex Hygiene and Birth Regulation Society.  Their gross income from grants, donations and service provision is around $15.5 million dollars each year.  In the year ended 30 June 2014, that income included government grants of $11.7 million.

Alarmingly Family Planning is pleased with the “success” of their Tauranga abortion facility.  According to their Annual Report 138 women had abortions in the year under review (1 July 2013 to 30 June 2014).

At this clinic Family Planning have been providing early medical abortions since March 2013.  Women are given the drug mifepristone (which blocks the action of the pregnancy hormone progesterone) then some time later (up to 48 hours) another drug, misoprostol, will be administered, expelling the preborn child and pregnancy related tissue.

The application for the license was submitted to the Abortion Supervisory Committee very quietly.  Earlier attempts in 2009 to gain a license for their Hamilton clinic was thwarted when pro-life groups worked together to expose the plan and the risks to women and their preborn children.  But now that they have one license, Family Planning will be looking to provide early medical abortions at all of their clinics.

There should be little surprise then that Family Planning invited Cecile Richards, the President of Planned Parenthood Federation of America (PPFA) to their 2013 Conference in Wellington.

Abortion and sex education are big business for Planned Parenthood.  In fact, Planned Parenthood is the largest provider of abortion in the United States.  And Family Planning New Zealand wants to learn from them.

What Family Planning don’t realise is that Planned Parenthood is getting exposed for its lies, dodgy information and greed.  If Family Planning take a page out of Planned Parenthood’s book they may just find themselves sinking in the muck too.

Abby Johnson visiting New Zealand



The issue of consent

Heart in handsThere has been a lot of talk lately about sexual consent. Educators and organisations who have an interest in the sexual violence that is occurring amongst New Zealand’s young people believe that “consent” is the answer to this side of our social woes.

It is important that young people understand what rape is. They must know that it is a grave assault on the dignity of the victim. Those who find themselves victims of a rape, should feel able to report the crime, and know that they will be heard and taken seriously.

Young people must be taught that rape is a heinous crime.

But by saying it is just an issue of consent misses the point.   Consent implies that sexual relations between two people – whether it be a one night stand, an ongoing relationship, or any combination of possibilities – can never be harmful if everyone is in agreement.

When educators talk about consent what they are really saying is that young people have the right to:

Consent to mutually use each other
The opposite of love is not hate as many assume.  The opposite of love is using another.  We use another when we put our own desires before the good of another.  When two people “consent” to sexual intercourse outside of a stable committed relationship (marriage is the only relationship that fits this bill) they are putting their own desires for momentary pleasure ahead of the good of the other.  Hence, consent in this situation is really consent to mutually use one another sexually.

Consent to expose one another to sexually transmitted disease
Even if condoms are used, they are not 100% effective at preventing the transmission of sexually transmitted diseases all of the time.  STDs are on the rise.  Some, like chlamydia and gonorrhea can cause infertility in women if left untreated, and many don’t have symptoms.  The effects of some of these diseases can be life-long and devestating.

Consent to unplanned pregnancy
Pregnancy – the conception of a new and unrepeatable human being – is a natural consequence of sexual intercourse between man and woman.  When two people engage in sexual intercourse, they must realise that pregnancy may occur.  So-called contraceptives fail sometimes.  Almost half of all abortions carried out in New Zealand each year are because birth control failed.  Abortion harms women – mentally, physically and spiritually – and it always ends the life of the preborn child.

By making “consent” the issue, young people are being fooled into believing that the consequences of sexual intercourse outside of marriage have little or no impact on their lives.  The message is clear – the elation of sexual pleasure and self-gratification is yours to freely choose.

But consent does not necessarily bring with it freedom.

True freedom comes when one learns to love by giving totally of self for the good of the beloved.

This is true respect, true love and what must be taught to today’s youth.

Keeping youth ‘safe’

In the name of keeping their teens ‘safe’, many parents do precisely the opposite as they enable sexual exploits in their own homes.  Most parents would not have considered allowing their teen have a boyfriend or girlfriend stay over  20 years ago, but it appears that the times have changed significantly, and this is becoming the ‘norm’.

Some of the reasons cited by parents who allow sexual sleepovers include:

  • keeping teens safe
  • knowing where they are
  • being able to communicate, especially about contraception
  • greater trust in the parent
  • feeling of responsibility in the teen

Certainly, allowing your teen to engage in sexual exploits under your roof with their girlfriend or boyfriend of the time will keep you in the loop about where they are and who they are with.  Your teen may even speak to you more candidly – but this isn’t a given.

But the overall thinking here is flawed.  By giving teens what we think they want, we are not giving them what they need.

The safe-sex lie is still being perpetrated today, and parents have brought it, much to Family Planning and their cohort’s joy!  There is this thinking in the community, which seems to be becoming more prevalent, that if you use a condom, or some other form of contraception, and if all parties involved “consent” then you are ‘safe’.

A number of parents who want to keep their children ‘safe’ make sure their teens (especially boys) have condoms available to them.  By doing so they are creating a ticking time bomb.

These parents might be shocked to know that according to the New Zealand Abortion Supervisory Report, 46% of women who had an abortion in the year ended 2012, had been using contraception at the time they became pregnant.  60% of those were using condoms!

Contrary to popular belief, condoms are not perfect at preventing the spread of STDs. The US Center for Disease Control (CDC) acknowledge this in their fact sheet on Condom Effectiveness where they state that “consistent and correct use of male latex condoms can reduce (though not eliminate) the risk of STD transmission.”

“The most reliable ways to avoid transmission of sexually transmitted diseases (STDs), including human immunodeficiency virus (HIV),” the CDC says “are to abstain from sexual activity or to be in a long-term mutually monogamous relationship with an uninfected partner.”

Other “contraceptive” methods, especially hormonal methods, wreak havoc with a women’s bodies.  Besides numerous side effects, which range from the uncomfortable (e.g. weight gain) to the downright scary (e.g. death), the Combined Oral Contraceptive Pill is classed by the World Health Organisation (WHO) as a Class 1 carcinogen.

Why would we want to expose our young women to that? Hardly safe.

Will your teen thank you for allowing them to do as they please under your roof years down the track when they have contracted an STD (or several); had an abortion; become a single parent; had multiple sexual partners; found themselves infertile?

Rather than giving in to the premise that “they’re going to do anyway”, parents need to raise the bar.  Young people need high expectations of them – they need to know that they are actually capable of controlling their sexual urges and will do so if they are encouraged and given good reasons.  We as a society need to stop thinking that young people are animals without any self-control.  We also need to set the boundaries and give them a reason to put their energies into other pursuits such as sports and studies and community service.

We need to rebuild a marriage culture that values a life-long commitment of one man and one woman for the benefit of children.  Marriage must be seen by all in society as integral to the stability of our communities so that young people aspire and commit to it.  Girls in particular dream of the stability of marriage, but somewhere along the way the dream gets lost.  We need to encourage that dream!

A great paradigm shift is needed in society.  It can be done, one family at a time; one community at a time.  Let’s take up the challenge and keep our youth truly safe!

Graphic sex education program for 5-year-olds shocks New Zealand parents

by Michelle Kaufman, New Zealand Correspondent
Reposted from

AUCKLAND, New Zealand, December 11, 2013 ( – A new graphic sex education program aimed at five-to-12 year-olds has been launched in New Zealand, drawing sharp criticism from parents who are shocked at the material covered.

The Every Body Education program provides both in-school and out-of-school programs for children aged between 5 and 12-years-old.

Presented by Kathryn Heape, children are taught what she perceives to be age-appropriate information about sexuality, starting at the earliest age with the details of sex.

“We talk about how the baby grows in the uterus, [and] we talk about how the penis’s job is to deliver the sperm to the egg through the vagina. It’s all very matter of fact,” she recently told 3 News.

In addition to this “matter of fact” explanation of sexual intercourse, five and six-year-olds are taught the scientific terms for sexual and reproductive body parts.  Childbirth is described, and, under the guise of personal safety, condoms are shown with the instruction not to pick them up off the ground.

According to the Every Body Education literature, seven and eight-year-old children are given information about menstruation and nocturnal emissions (wet dreams).  They are also taught that “all families have different values and beliefs towards sexual activity”.

Nine and ten-year-olds are taught about the different ways conception can occur, how families are formed, and the “responsibilities that come with being in a romantic relationship.”

Sexual and reproductive health, STI’s and sexual responsibility are in the curriculum for eleven and twelve-year-olds.

So far five North Island primary schools have signed up for the program, according to 3News.

Heape believes “the earlier we start talking, the better.”

But parents disagree.

One mother Carla Smith, who attended a Health Curriculum Community Evening at her child’s school in November, was disturbed the program was even being considered by her children’s school.

Smith said she believes that a “one size fits all approach” is “inappropriate” in the school setting.  Discussion around sexuality “should be introduced at home by parents at an age they determine appropriate for their individual children,” she wrote in a note on Facebook.

“I just think you’re placing seeds in their head which they may not know what to do with. Who knows where those seeds are going to go in the future, and in what directions they’re going to turn?” Smith said.

Although the Every Body Education website welcomes the involvement of parents, and requests that a parent presentation is held prior to classes for children, critics are sceptical.

“Involving parents doesn’t change the fact that this material is graphic” says Dame Colleen Bayer of Family Life International NZ.  “It assaults children’s innocence.  It is a form of abuse.  We need to get this, and other sex ed programmes out of our schools.”

Sex education is being discussed on a national level as teen pregnancy, STI’s and deviant behaviour among youth increases.

All New Zealand public schools, including Catholic integrated schools, must provide “sexuality education” to students in Years 1 to 10.  Parents can remove their children from classes. However, a proposal removing the option for parents to withdraw their children from classes has been tabled.

Currently schools are able to choose their own resources as long as the curriculum achievement objectives for each year level are met.  Consultation with the school community about the program must also take place every two years.

Heape is a qualified teacher with a degree in Psychology, and developed the sex ed program after spending a year training and working in Vancouver, Canada with Saleema Noon Sexual Health Educators.

Speaking up for our children

The last few weeks has seen quite a resurgence in the subject of sex education, what is now referred to as sexuality education, in an attempt to cover up the insidious nature of this abuse of our children.

As a mother of seven beautiful children, I am alarmed at the rate at which things are moving. Just last week on the radio it was raised that sex education should be mandatory for every child. Yes, “sexuality” education is compulsory for all children in Year One to Year Ten, but parents have the right to withdraw their child from the classes. This proposal means that our children would be exposed to explicit, vulgar and value changing “sexuality” education and parents would have no rights to remove their children.

It appears that for the world, taking away the rights of parents to love, protect and teach their children is a #1 priority.

Another shocking resource has reared its ugly head in our country.  It’s the “Every Body Education” programme.  Developed by Kathryn Heape, a qualified teacher and “sexuality” educator, the programme aims to teach children from the age of 5 scientifically accurate information.  That information, Kathryn told 3 News, includes information “about how the baby grows in the uterus, [and] we talk about how the penis’s job is to deliver the sperm to the egg through the vagina. It’s all very matter of fact.”

The Every Body Education programme is already being used in 5 North Island Primary Schools.  Parents are outraged.  And so they should be.  This is unnecessary information, however scientifically accurate, for a five year old child to process, especially when it is given out of context in a classroom setting.

What on earth is Kathryn (who by the way has no children of her own) thinking?

Finally, the Family Planning programme designed for Years One to Four is about to be released in the next few days.  This programme will join several other “sexuality” education programmes produced for Family Planning, all of which provide far too much information, with permissive values attached.  Details on this programme were discussed here and here.

Despite evidence to the contrary, Family Planning and their cohorts still insist on fixing the problem of teen pregnancy, STI’s and deviant behaviour by giving our children more and more graphic sex ed. When will they realise that the solution lies in raising the bar, not lowering it?

Parents, it is our responsibility to protect our children, to ensure that their education in love is one that aligns itself to the natural law.

We need to teach our children that marriage is important. We need to teach them self control and real respect for the dignity of others. We need to do this with the mind of the Church, who teaches the truth.

I never saw myself involved in a revolution. But I think we need to start a peaceful, but truthful one today! For the sake of our children and grandchildren!

Gabriel Kuby an author and convert to Catholicism speaks extensively on the global sexual revolution.  Kuby calls this a battle: “It is a battle for the dignity of man, for the family, for our children, for the future. Ultimately, it is a battle for the Kingdom of God.”

What better things are there to fight for in life?

Will you join us in speaking up for children?

A spotlight on sexuality education

Family Planning are desperately trying to save face after the public have been appalled at the Association’s plan to release a sexuality resource for children aged 5 to 8 later this month.

The resource has drawn attention to the fact that “sexuality” is already included right through each year level of the health curriculum.  Even in Catholic schools “sexuality” education is compulsory, although parents do have the right to be informed and are given the option of removing their children from these classes.

In an effort to calm the waters, Family Planning’s Health Promotion Director, Frances Bird has used the old argument that “sexuality education is not sex education”.  According to 3 News, Bird said “We’re not talking about sex – the act of sex – at all.”

And that of course, is likely to be true when it comes to our five-year-olds.  The problem is, the content mostly becomes much less obviously disturbing at younger ages (although not in the case of the resource we are speaking of).  Unless parents are aware of what the terminology actually means, and how their children can be manipulated, it can be very easy to think that what is actually being discussed is simply harmless talk about getting along with each other, and our bodies.

What exactly is sexuality education?

According to the Ministry of Education’s 2002 document “Sexuality Education – Revised Guide for Principals, Boards of Trustees, and Teachers” the term “sexuality education” refers to the following:

The curriculum emphasises the holistic nature of sexuality education (which has physical, social, mental and emotional, and spiritual aspects) and defines “sex education” as relating only to the physical dimension of sexuality education.

Family Planning, when explaining the term to parents and caregivers, have a similar definition, expanding it slightly:

Comprehensive sexuality education is learning about:

  • the emotional, social, spiritual, physical and biological aspects of growing up
  • relationships
  • sex
  • human sexuality
  • sexual and reproductive health.

It involves young people in expanding knowledge, exploring attitudes and developing skills in order to lead fulfilling and healthy lives.

Family Planning supports and has developed an ‘age appropriate’ approach to sexuality (and relationships) education.  This means that programmes are developed in response to a child or young person’s stage or level of development.

So sexuality education in the eyes of those entrusted with our children’s care is to do with the whole person.  The term certainly gives opportunity to those who wish to deceive that it’s not all about sex, making it seem like anybody opposed are unnecessarily concerned.

One should consider who is the arbitrator of an “age appropriate” approach.  From family to family and from child to child the appropriateness of this sort of material is subjective.

Family Planning goes on to say:

Because sexuality education is much more than “the birds and the bees” it should start young. Normalising conversations about bodies, good and bad feelings, families and relationships and learning communication skills from a young age makes it ok for children to ask questions and build on their understanding as they mature.

The purpose of this resource and all sexuality education materials is to desensitise children from a very young age.  In this way, as a child grows, ideas, behaviours and situations that have once been seen as irregular, immoral and odd, bParts of the Bodyecome normal.

Take the following illustration.  This is a real example of a child’s work from Year 3 (ages 7 and 8).  The parents had been told that the child would be filling out the names of body parts, but that private areas would not be included.  Why is it necessary for the children to be scantily clothed?  Why are the children – a boy and a girl – holding hands?  The only answer can be to desensitise the children.

It must be noted that the teachers handing this worksheet out may not have been aware of the deep implications of doing so.  It is also true that many good teachers will go along with what a resource says because the people who put it together know what is best, as it is their area of expertise.  It should also be noted that the book from which this worksheet comes from is unknown.  It may not be a Family Planning resource.  But it is a good illustration of the type of material that can come before our children at school at a very young age.

Parents must also be aware that some teachers fully embrace the same ideology as Family Planning and they may choose to impart even more information than is required in the resource.

What does the Family Planning resource for Years 1 to 4 include?

According to the NZ Herald, the children at Year One (age 5) will learn the following:

  • Working together as a class to create a safe classroom environment
  • Discussing the meaning of respect and showing respect for others
  • Describing themselves and their relationships with others, including similarities and differences
  • Describing themselves in relation to their gender
  • Exploring and sharing ideas about friends and classmates
  • Using ‘I’ statements to express ideas and feelings
  • Identifying body parts, including sexual parts
  • Discussing changes to the body and ways to care for the body

There is much on the list to be concerned about.  Parents need to ask if this is something that our children need to know at such a young age.  Teachers, Principals and Boards of Trustees must seriously consider the appropriateness of these materials for the children in their schools before embarking on teaching this type of ideologically led propaganda.

What is Family Planning’s reasoning for needing this type of resource?

Family Planning’s reasoning behind the resource so far is two-fold.  Frances Bird has given two explanations over the weekend:

  1. “young people are being exposed to more media and materials”
  2. “if you start to build the foundation knowledge for them, by the time they do learn about it [sex], they’re less likely to have early sex, they have fewer partners, they have less sex as well.”

But both of these reasons are seriously flawed.

Countering graphic media and materials by providing more graphic media and materials defies logic.  The only true way to protect children’s innocence is to ban the showing of graphic media and materials to children.  That must include advertisements in print publications, magazine covers in supermarkets, tv advertisements, and online restrictions.  Providing resources such as the one Family Planning have produced only serves to feed the cycle.

As for the argument that earlier sexuality education will result in youth having fewer partners, have less sex and less likely to have early sex, one just needs to look at the evidence around to show how prolific teenage sexual activity is.  People need to be aware when reading comments like this, that Family Planning are only talking about sexual intercourse, young people can “fool around” just as much as they like, with whomever they like, and that will never be factored in to the statistics.

The more sex is placed in front of our children, the chances of them being able to resist diminish.  It is simple logic.

What can parents do?

It is absolutely critical that parents are fully aware of what is happening in their children’s schools and pre-schools.  There are resources out there already that many parents would be surprised to learn the content of.  Here are a few ideas to get you started:

  • The first person to speak with is your child’s teacher.  Speak respectfully and with genuine questions to find out what is included in the classroom programme.
  • If, you discover that there are elements of the classroom programme that you are not satisfied with, and having discussed it with the classroom teacher, take your issue to the Principal.
  • Your final point of call at the school is the Board of Trustees.
  • Parents must bring this new resource to the attention of their classroom teachers, principals and Board of Trustees.  Tell them that you do not wish to have such a resource available in the school.
  • Withdraw your children from sexuality education classes.  A letter should be sent home informing you that these lessons will be taking place and the intended content.  You have a right to withdraw your child/ren.  You also have a right to teach your children about these matters in your own home, with your own values at the time you see fit.

While these suggestions may not completely protect your children (there is no telling what might be brought up in the playground, or in the classroom by the teacher outside of the health lessons), they are opportunities for you to be pro-active.

What can teachers and principals do?

Teachers, every day parents put their trust in you to teach and protect our children.  You have a massive influence on our children’s lives.  Many of you feel ill-equipped to teach the children in your care sexuality education.  Some of you may feel very uncomfortable about teaching this and you look to the various resources available for guidance on what to teach, parents understand that.

Please consider how sexuality resources may impact the children in your care.  Please consider how easily the innocence of children is lost in these days where so much is foisted upon them.  Consider how quickly our society is asking children to grow up.

Children, as you are aware, come from families.  Sometimes those families have many, many issues.  But families that face difficulties and neglect should not be the excuse for including sexuality education in our classrooms.  Most parents have the ability to teach their children about sexuality.  Our young children especially, do not need to be robbed of the innocence.

Please take the time to review your sexuality education programme.  Is it necessary to include all that you do within the classes?  Is there any way that you can involve parents?

Most importantly, please consult with the parents and caregivers in your school.  Find out how you can help them teach their children.  And please, do not purchase this Family Planning resource for your schools.


All those who work towards removing our children’s innocence, no matter how pleasantly they couch their rhetoric need to have their true agenda exposed.  Parents, teachers, priests, ministers and all people of good will must work together to keep organisations like Family Planning out of our schools, out of our youth programmes, out of our families.  We must work hard to ensure that our children’s innocence is protected for as long as possible.

5 year olds need sex ed because of explicit media, Planned Parenthood affiliate says

by Michelle Kaufman
New Zealand Correspondent
Reposted from

WELLINGTON, New Zealand, November 1, 2013 ( – Sexuality education for five-year olds is one of the topics being discussed at a NZ Family Planning Association Conference currently being held in New Zealand’s capital city of Wellington.

The New Zealand Family Planning Association is an affiliate of the International Planned Parenthood Federation (IPPF).

One of the keynote speakers at the conference is Cecile Richards, President of Planned Parenthood.

“Positive sexual health” is the theme of the conference, a title that belies the association’s true agenda.

Part of that agenda is the release on November 28 of a “sexuality” resource aimed at five- to eight-year-olds.

According to a Family Planning spokesperson, the resource is not about sex, but about teaching children the differences between boys and girls and naming body parts.

Family Planning’s Health Promotion Director Frances Bird stated that the resource was needed because “young people are being exposed to more media and materials.” She went on to say that children are “presenting with some questions at a younger age that we didn’t see some 10 years ago.”

Family Life international NZ’s national director, Dame Colleen Bayer is appalled at this reasoning.

“The answer lies in restricting what media and materials young people get to see, not further assaulting them with even more inappropriate material” she said. “The media standards in New Zealand are shocking. Children cannot even watch a family movie on the television anymore without being bombarded with inappropriate images.”

Another family spokesperson, Bob McCoskrie reasoned that it should be up to “parents [to] determine what kids need to know at the suitable time.”

“A one size fits all approach doesn’t work,” he said.

Other topics being discussed at the conference include building a sexual and reproductive health movement; medical abortion; gender diversity and sexuality education; sexual and reproductive health and rights on the Kiribati agenda; and New Zealand women’s experiences with the Jadelle long-acting contraceptive/abortifacient implant.

The conference is sponsored by ISTAR, a New Zealand registered charity which distributes the abortion pill mifepristone. It also imports manual vacuum aspiration equipment for suction abortions.

Other sponsors and exhibitors include Durex, Ansell LifeStyles, and the Abortion Law Reform Association of New Zealand (ALRANZ).

Many people disagree with Family Planning’s stance. A thread on New Zealand’s One News website is full of troubled comments.

One commenter, Louise Campbell writes “Unreal!!!! It’s the parents job to teach children what they need to know when the parent thinks the child needs to hear it. Parents should NOT be happy to leave it up to others to teach their children about sexuality! This makes me angry!”

A peaceful vigil, organized by Family Life International NZ, is being held outside the conference for the three days it is on. Many of those who pass by are shocked to learn the topics being discussed at the conference.

A fact sheet about the Family Planning Conference, produced by Family Life International NZ can be found here.

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